First… Down another pound!!!
Facebook can be such a great place and it can be such a negative place- it is what YOU make it. I’ve deleted people, removed myself from groups, unliked pages and done all that in order to get my feed where I want it.
One of the worst places on Facebook are the groups….any group…regardless of the subject matter.
I joined several keto groups when I first started this 3 weeks ago and I think I’m down to 3 groups that I haven’t either left or been kicked out of and that is fine with me, I have no problem weeding out the bad folks.
Like most folks, I searched for “keto” and joined the group with the most people…makes sense, right? We’ll that group turned out to be ran by a couple of lunatics. They weren’t so much about helping people as they were about trying to get you to pay them for webinars and classes and all that crap. I watched as the admins tried to control every single word that was posted, even in comments…if you DARED say something against them or even mention something that didn’t agree with, you got booted…no questions. People in that group were so scared, they would literally tag the admins and ask permission to post things- I guess they were scared because that was their only form of support and they didn’t want to lose it.
We’ll…that’s not me. One of the main admins made a post and I put a comment in and the comment was deleted and I was kicked in less than 10 minutes; I wasn’t rude…didn’t use bad language….just pointed out that the admins were rude sometimes and it was more discouraging then helpful. This admin had been doing keto for YEARS…considered himself a teacher of the art of keto and was charging a huge amount of money for learning material…yet he was fat!!!
Now, don’t go getting triggered there honey bunch…I’m not body shaming him…I’m simply saying that a fat guy doing keto for years probably shouldn’t be teaching others.
So…why should you listen to me and my advice? I’m still morbidly obese!!!
Well, you shouldn’t! Honestly, I’m not telling you anything…I’m simply writing what I do, what I eat and my thoughts on MY journey- I am not, in any way, telling you what you should or shouldn’t do. This is a personal journey and you can only become a keto master by adapting things to fit your needs to not only be healthy but also enjoy life.
I made another post on a Facebook page and it quickly got over a thousand likes and hundreds of comments…so many comments that the admins had to disable commenting on the post! 99% of the comments were positive and people thanking me or saying what most of us were thinking.
You have something in the keto world that are called “keto snobs”…I like to call them “the keto elitist” but either way, they aren’t really helpful…yet I think they honestly try to be. You have these folks who believe you should have zero sugar, zero fake sugar, only eat 100% grass fed, “clean” and organic. They come off smug and they feel like their way is the only way and if you aren’t doing it their way, you aren’t doing keto.
People, like me, who are just starting and making HUGE changes in their life don’t need these keto elitist talking down to them- that has been the ONLY negative or discouraging thing I’ve seen with this lifestyle…those asshats.
When you first make such a huge change, it’s scary because it really seems like there isn’t anything you can eat and if you listen to them, there really isn’t. They seem to eat the same exact things daily with no variety and their life seems to suck and they usually really haven’t had that big of a success.
I want to be the guy that goes from 440 lbs. to 240 lbs. (yep, still overweight) and I want to share what I’ve learned and how I did it but I also want to enjoy life.
The problem is, these keto elitist don’t understand that most people have common sense…and what I mean by that is, they aren’t going to buy sugar free candy and then eat the whole box because that isn’t healthy either and when I say that eating sugar free stuff is OK, I’m not meaning to make it your entire menu…but it’s OK from time to time to stop a craving and help you succeed.
Here is the perfect example – last night, my wife and I got a box of Atkins Carmel Peanut Rolls…which are basically like a mix of Baby Ruth and Snickers and they are amazing!
Now, this would cause a keto elitist’s mind to literally explode!!! You can’t have that “chemical shitstorm” on keto!!! They would just literally lose their shit! Then they would send me hateful comments and messages about how I’m telling people to go out and eat this crap…but I’m not telling you to go eat anything. I’m telling you that WE got them…we tried them and they are amazing. The wife and I split one and it seems to take care of candy cravings. Sure, it may have some unhealthy chemicals but how unhealthy is it going to be for me to lose the cravings fight and hit up the candy section and just go nuts?
Sometimes the lesser of two evils is the best way to go and, damn it to hell you keto asshats, I understand that you don’t have to eat either but it’s delicious and sometimes you need to enjoy life. Sometimes you need to make slower changes by adapting what you are eating.
Here is another example- you have some of these folks go nuts if you tell them you went to Wendy’s and got a burger with no ketchup/no bun; you’ll get “oh that food is so unhealthy, you are killing yourself…blah…blah…blah” Truth is, my wife and I were eating out about 8 times a week and cramming as much food in as we could and now we eat out once a week and it fits into our macros- so, sure, it may not be the healthiest but it’s way better than we were doing and I’m sure, with time, we’ll get better.
All that rambling to say this…when people make positive changes, don’t hit them with negativity. If they are making better choices, don’t complain that they aren’t making the PERFECT choice. Making better choices is the starting place….then you research, learn and start making better and better choices until you reach a happy medium where you can lose weight, get healthier but still enjoy life and come up with something you can live with. I’m still trying to find that place.
Back in 2005, I dropped 117 lbs. doing something I couldn’t live with…..and I crashed and gained it all back plus an extra 28 lbs. and it’s been there for over a decade.
Don’t be that person…and don’t be that person that discourages folks from trying keto…don’t be a keto asshat.
Love, Peace and Sharkyness