Post like this never “do well,” and that is fine. I enjoy writing and sharing things, so who needs money, right? I say that because I do make about $15–$20 per month just making posts, so I guess I’m a highly paid influencer now.

I had my annual physical last week, and my depression and anxiety are doing WAY better, and since I have a history of that, she had to go through and ask me all types of questions. She asked me what I was doing (besides popping happy pills) to make life better overall.

Back on February 10th, 2025, a top‑5 life‑changing event happened, and I truly hate to make someone’s death “about me,” but it’s just a fact. One of my employees (not my employee, but I was his supervisor) passed away, and it led to a complete change in my life.

My entire life, I’ve always been “on edge.” If I call my son while he’s at college and he doesn’t answer, then he’s dead — that is where my mind goes first. It always has, and it seems it always will, even with the happy pills. I just go to the worst‑case scenario first, and I was always told that it was stupid (like I could change it) but on February 10th — it wasn’t stupid.

So his death led me to look to make changes in my life, and I’ve spent the last 17 months focusing on that — from trying hobbies to playing video games to fully embracing the hygge lifestyle, which is the entire purpose of this post.

I highly suggest buying this book, reading it, and living by it. It will make your life better. Comfy clothes, candles, great smells, being comfy, being happy.

I would like to gear this more toward guys as well — I know, sexist, right?

I’m tired of the “alpha,” “guys have to be strong and can’t like comfy things” mindset, and I do notice society getting away from it, but it still seems really hard for some guys.

I can’t stress these two words enough — screw ’em!

I am so not worried about others and so locked in on my happiness that it feels like I wasted the first 46 years of my life!

I really want to start sharing more about hygge because it has changed my life.

I would also like to end this with: RIP Brandon — he was a good kid, and life truly isn’t fair. I don’t know how to say this without sounding like an asshole, but it’s sad that a tragedy made such a massive impact on me, and while he will never know it, his life made a massive difference in the world — in my world.

Life is short.|
Do what you enjoy.
Embrace #CozyShit
~~~~~sh/\rky~~~~~

I’m not going to post a lot of personal stuff on here but I did want to write something to get it out of my head and it does closely relate to embracing #CozyShit.

I’ve always had “mental issues” as most of us do- fighting depression and general unhappiness. My mind just works different- I always go to worse case and my mind is just set up to wait for the bad to happen; it’s not something I can change.

If my wife goes out of town for a Dr. appt. and I call and she doesn’t answer- I don’t freak out because I’m controlling or think she is cheating- I freak out because my mind tells me she’s dead- no other options. I’ve always been this way and people who don’t know us very well may see it different but that is what it is- same goes for my kid. I don’t think his phone is dead, he forgot his phone, he is in class…nope…he’s dead.

Trust me- if I could change my mind going in that direction constantly, I would- it’s exhausting.

I’m set up to view life as simply what you do between disasters. Happiness is NOT guaranteed but pain, suffering and heartache is; I can’t promise you that something good will ever happen to you again but I CAN promise something bad will- and that is why I started embracing #CozyShit in the first place.

I’ve tried to live daily, in the moment- doing what makes me happy and truly understanding that everything comes to an end.

I go to sleep nightly understanding that it may be the last time I ever fall asleep next to the person I love- because one day, it will be…and when that day comes, I don’t want to regret not taking advantage of it while I could.

I have become fully aware that every single thing I do, daily, could be the last time I ever do that and it eventually will be, so I enjoy it more.

My new motto has become “Life is Short, Do What You Enjoy” and it can’t get any more simpler or cozy than that statement.

I have been way happier this year and, while it always seems that time flies, I can say it doesn’t seem as fast to me because I do things I love daily- and I do them “in the moment”. I focus on enjoying them, taking them in and embracing every single moment.

Anything in this world can be considered “cozy” if you enjoy it and it makes you happy- embrace ALL of that.

Time gets away from you and you go about your normal day and then, tragedy hits, and you wish you had done a specific thing more…DO IT NOW so that you won’t have those regrets. I can’t force that enough.

I am taking every single opportunity I get to embrace the moment and make it as cozy as I can.

I’ve figured out how to take my screwed up thought process and turn it into a positive- to embrace the way my mind works and to use it to force me to treat each moment like it will soon end- because it will.

Many people already know that and many people never will…thankfully, I figured it out at 47.

Life is short.
Do what you enjoy.
Embrace #CozyShit
~~~~~sh/\rky~~~~~